We have six grown children.  Three of them are doing well.  Between the other three they have borrowed over twenty five thousand from us over the years, always saying they will pay it back.  It seems they always are in some kind of financial difficulty.  With one of the three, we feel we are being used, especially by her husband who can't or won't keep a job.  One of the other two talks as if he feels like we owe him. The third one seems to be doing fairly well and never makes any mention of the money borrowed.  We feel that it is unfair to the other three.  I almost forgot: one of the three who is doing well, borrowed money when her husband was out of work saying they would pay it back, but after waiting several years after he went back to work, she said "Just take it out of my inheritance" which (to say the least) upset me.  We are not hard up but are on a fixed income and would like to be able buy a new car or something, but feel we have to keep our money in reserve for them.  I was wondering what some of you might think.