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  Jilly M.
• Last Online: Sep 30 2009
Discussion Started on Sep 02 2009 at 11:06:01 pm
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That is a horrible story about the man who slapped the 2 year old girl.  I am 56 years old, my mother spanked me when I was young and thought it was a humiliating experience and often undeserved.  When I had my children 25 and 23 years ago, I chose not to spank my children.  I found alternative ways to discipline my them if they needed it, time out was used most often, especially when they were little.  I now have two beautiful, kind, and gentle daughters who have thanked me many times for the way they were brought up.  I now have a 1 year old grandson who will also not be spanked and he is already showing that he can listen well and when he can't we removed him from the tempting situation.  We must show respect and restraint to our children if we expect them to treat others in that same manner.
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  ShariRober
• Last Online: Dec 10 2009
Discussion Started on Sep 03 2009 at 01:45:16 pm
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Slapping a stranger's child in the face as opposed to a parent spanking a child is like comparing apples to oranges. Any hitting around the head or shaking should be taboo but I think a swat on the fanny by a parent is an acceptable discipline for a tantrum throwing child. It certainly didn't hurt me or leave any psychological scars that I am aware of.
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  Nanaesquire
• Last Online: Jul 03 2010
Discussion Started on Sep 03 2009 at 01:53:31 pm
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In response to this particular story, I don't think that man had any right to touch someone else's child...no matter what.  However, the mother should have taken heed and removed the child from the situation before the man had the chance to touch her.  Sometimes small children can get on strangers nerves when they are crying or whining but the outsider never knows the whole situation and should mind their own business.
My father used to spank me...every chance he got...and he also "beat" me with a switch off the tree in the yard or his leather belt.  I got spanked to the point of what would probably be called child abuse, today.  Several times I had bruises or welts on my backside.  I survived it all and don't like him any less because of it.  My children have had very few spankings but only with my hand and never hard enough to leave a mark.  They survived it and we are the best of friends.  My grandchildren seldom ever have been spanked and they are quite sassy to their mother.  I can't say that I think that spankings help, but some sort of retrobution or punishment should be totally enforced when they have misbehaved.  Most of todays parents do a lot of threatening but don't have any followthrough.
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  Vannie
• Last Online: Oct 08 2011
Discussion Started on Sep 03 2009 at 02:15:34 pm
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I don't think a stranger hitting a child has anything to do with a parent spanking a child. But, concerning parent spanking, I do recall that I was switched around the ankles a few times when I was small. I actually had to get the little switch from the forsythia bush in front of our house. I am sure that I picked the smallest and skinniest one. I don't recall it really hurting, but I think my mom's heart was not in it. My dad never hit me, but until the day he died, all I had to do was think he disapproved and I would clean up my act. His disapproval hurt worse than any hitting. 
What I see these days are what I call beatings; they not only really hurt the child, I can see that the child is embarrassed and humilated as well. I just can't imagine that working as real discipline for anyone.  I have no children, but I suspect that I do not approve of  spanking or any harsh disciplinary action. Mostly because that's not how I was reared.    
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  Sassy
• Last Online: Mar 08 2012
Discussion Started on Sep 03 2009 at 02:31:32 pm
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 I got spanked as a child and it worked. Our rear ends are tough enough to withstand a few swats on it.
Big difference between abuse and what I got.
I also got spanked in school and let me tell you I never did what I got spanked for again.
Thats the problem with todays kids they fear nothing.
I feared going to the principals office and the swats from my mom.
My son also got a few swats in his growing up and he turned out to be a loving and respectful young man.
I'm not saying to hit your kids just what worked for my family.
 
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  Traveling Helen
• Last Online: Aug 05 2010
Discussion Started on Sep 03 2009 at 03:58:57 pm
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 New Zealand brought in an anti smacking law last year, there was a law that would have had that man convicted already in place as he hit round the face & worst of all it was a stranger, the new govermant has just had a referenden on the ruling of the new law, which came out 80% for removing the law as at the moment a parent could be convicted for a smack on the bottom even if it was for a saftey reason like the child was about to run out on the road.  Im all for a short sharp smack on the hand or bottom when needed but not using anything else but your own hand, how many of us had a smack with a wooden spoon?
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  Lonni
• Last Online: Sep 12 2009
Discussion Started on Sep 03 2009 at 04:01:29 pm
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Spanking a child who is doing something repeatedly that endangers himself or others seems reasonable.  Ofcourse all other methods have to have been exhausted.  My Mother spanked us rarely.  All she really had to do is give us "the look" and point her finger.  We still laugh about that with her.  Slapping is not "spanking"   and doing anything in public is unnecessary.  Remove the child!
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  Cody
• Last Online: Sep 24 2009
Discussion Started on Sep 03 2009 at 05:27:08 pm
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The story of a child being slapped by a stranger has no connection with parents who choose to spank their own children.  With that said, I feel that spanking a child when he/she misbehaves is appropriate when other methods of punshment have failed.  My parents did it to me and I did the same to my children and they to my grandchildren.  The only rule we have always followed is when you spank, do it when you are not emotionally upset and tell to the children why they are getting a spanking in a calm and understandable explaination.
 
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  Vannie
• Last Online: Oct 08 2011
Discussion Started on Sep 03 2009 at 07:18:15 pm
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Lonni, I definately remember "the look" from my mother, it could stop any of us in our tracks. The biggest threat in our family was, "I'm telling mommy", later it was "Does mom know?" That was not so much a threat as a warning that perhaps one of us would tell HER ;) 
My parents were strict, but my brother's and I lived through it. I must say that my brothers did receive many spankings/beatings, they would 'talk back' and have 'attitude' without blinking an eye.    
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