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It's hard to understand your experience with Rose but I had wanted to say that when things are terribly tough (like when I stayed at the hospital with my husband and he was in intensive care for weeks) there are survival things everyone can do.  You may not be able to sleep and eat but you can survive by choosing to take a few minutes for coffee or anything you can put in your mouth.  You won't always make sense but you can survive but you can't do without eating and sleeping both.  The next thing you can do is try to give support and friendship to the people around you and you wll forget momentarily about your pain.  Their pain is as bad as yours.  There were people who did not know my husband was dying and when I came home I had a note from a man who lost his wife and just had one 14 year old daughter. He found out after his wife had died that I lost my husband and wrote to thank me for being kind and supportive.  His wife had been healthy and young and died of constant multiple seizures that they couldn't diagnose.  She lived like that for a week.  Trying to be supportive to people like that man and his daughter probably saved my sanity  I'm grateful to them for letting me help and for helping me theough a horrendous time that they never knew I was going through.

As for Rose I heard about a family from New Orleans who turned down a home because they were not given a television.  I gave a homeless half-brother and his girlfriend a home for 3 months.  I found him a good job. a new low cost apartment and a chance to buy a truck on easy pay from my best friend.  They never came near again and they had left town 5 months before I knew they were gone.  I'm a widow and could not afford to support them but he had >54 cents when I took him in.  I kept another friend the same way gfor 8months. She refused to leave so I had to have the sheriff move her out. She had a job but it was easier for me to support her I guess. (and three Pyrenees dogs). I have a young adopted son and he is the only one who will ever live in my house again.  I don't want people to quit helping others but don't care if they think its not good enough.  They're not worth your help.  Those people always manage to get by and usually on the backs of others. My experience has been with people who were experts at it.  Foolish me if I thought my kid brother wouldn't do it to me.  How dumb can I be?  By the way I'm 78.  Give me that wisdom~!