Trying to not give up.

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Added: Mon. Apr 27, 2009 12:52pm
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I am at my wits end today. I am stuck between The young people who think I should just lay down and die. How dare I,at my age try and get an education!! Then there are the older people who think that I am just being selfish to try and have a life. I should get a job, eny job,or stay home and babysit the grandkids. I was a skilled labor factory worker. Economy crisis got me to. I have enrolled in a two year college.Medical Assisting. I am struggling to not fail. I am three weeks into my classes and am thinking about quitting. I am not a Quitter but I need some moral support that is just not here in this life.My kids don't have time to explain some of the computer things I need help with. I didn't grow up withcomputers they ar not a segond language to me. I can't get baby sitting support from the other grandmothers because they are to stressed to watch children. Except while I am in class. I must pick them up as soon as class is over and just deal with doing research papers and other home work after they all go to bed.I live with my son and his family,wifw and two girls. I would just like some help.

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Tom Ratcliff
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Posted 1:51pm May 7th, 2009

Dear Diana,

You are only 49 ... that was 10 years ago for me. Since then I have failed on 2 new ventures and succeeded with 1. Now I'm trying to launch my fourth.

Please don't be so hard on yourself. What you are doing shows you got a lot of spunk! Another thing ..... good luck getting people to support you - some will and most won't.

You are not doing this to prove anything - you are doing this to better YOURSELF.

Get used to putting one foot in front of the other until you reach a point where it is no longer such a struggle.

I don't know you from Adam, but I CARE that you do succeed. I (and others like me on this blog) have had our share of struggles, but it gets easier over time. Think what life will be like when you do graduate and secure a new job with a better future.

God Bless and keep rowing your boat to shore.

Tom
Ms Luba
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Posted 5:46pm May 6th, 2009

Hi Diana,

Don't ever give up. As my motto says:

"You must give up the way it is.... to have it the way your want it"

Yes we all struggle through life, but there is a upside from all our struggling, I think it is great you have gone back to school, do not quit, just think of your future. The Medical field is the best field to get into. I have a 16 year old daughter who is a Jr in high school taking Medical Pre class, then to college next year. I am so proud of her for trying at a young age to go towards the medical field.

I don't know you personally, but I am proud to see that you are taking charge of your life to make a difference.

If you ever need to talk you can email me through this site or my other email: dearmsluba@msluba.com my cell is 330-933-0589.

Check out my website www.msluba.com a website women supporting women (Sisterhoodpower), we have a lot of women telling their stories and problems on our forum.

Have a Blessful Week

MsLuba (www.msluba.com)
Ms Luba
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Posted 12:09am May 6th, 2009
Honey dont ever give up it sounds like you need to have time for yourself outside of family and school I think its great you are in college and if you have to take some time off from it all to collect your thoughts thats ok but you need to revamp and get back on track of your dreams, make new friends spend time with them at our age we need to learn not to worry so much and take time to have fun relax even if its just 30 minutes, hour every day if you need someone to talk to I'm her just give me a ring
Love
Ms Luba
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Posted 10:42am May 5th, 2009
Dont you DARE quit!!!! Thats just what the culture and those around you want you to do. Follow thru, no matter what it takes. Many public libraries and adult schools offer computer courses, a couple of nites a week so they dont interfere with jobs, etc. Sometimes your local Office on Aging has this kind of help. If you attend church, maybe some of their youth group could assist you. Keep it going, baby, and remember the old Latin saying, "No permittere illegitimi carborundum" (dont let the bastards grind you down.) Keep me posted!
linda k
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Posted 10:41am April 28th, 2009

I have a daughter who in her late thirties decided one day that she had a dream and wanted more out of life then she was getting. She decided to go back to school. She has 6 children. Three are smaller and the other three older. Her dream is to become a nurse. It has been a real up hill battle. No time to study, I'm too far to help with babysitting and many other frustrations. She has cried, broken down and at times felt helpless. Some people told her she was crazy "with all those kids" to take those classes and continue but through it all she sees herself reaching her goal to become a nurse and helping other people. She is not technically savy with the computer but knows enough to do research or write a report. I still to this day type on the computer with one finger (pretty fast I may add). I bought myself an illustrated book on things like word, excell, etc.

The point is that you have a goal. It doesn't really matter what others think. You're doing it for yourself not for others. Think of how proud you will feel that you reached your goal and what you had to do to get there. You will be so proud of yourself as others will too. My daughter has now become a Medical Assistant and is only two years away from realizing her dream. Kudos to you for taking the class and let us know how you're doing.
Babs2
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Posted 4:43pm April 27th, 2009

Everyone has a plan for your life, and you were considered the perfect mother, grandmother, neighbor, and friend as long as your conformed to their expectations!

Now you would like some support for your expectations and desires, and it is withheld, so do what is best for you and make your dreams come true despite the obstacle course others had devised for you.

Your family won't assist with computer questions? (good indication of their selfishness) Well, there is help out there for you - I guess you will have to cease babysitting their children so you can get the help necessary to go forward with your plans to graduate, obtain a lucrative job.......and maybe a place of your own. Go for it!
Katy
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Posted 1:21pm April 27th, 2009
Diana,

I'm so glad you reached out for help! The Growing Bolder community is full of people who are here to communicate, make friends and more.

I think it's amazing that you are trying to better yourself -- at ANY age! We are big believers in lifelong learning -- if you need to show your friends and family examples, pull up any of the videos or radio interviews on this site.

I hope you don't quit college. We'd love to follow you on your journey, and hopefully be here for moral support!
Growing Bolder
Growing Bolder
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Posted 1:16pm April 27th, 2009
It sounds like you're having a tough time balancing everything, but we're proud of the decision you've made to invest in yourself! It probably sometimes feels like you're the oldest person to make the brave choice to head back to school, but in fact, you're in some esteemed company.

We've talked to two amazing women on the Growing Bolder Radio Show who also went back to school later in life. Hopefully you can draw some inspiration from them. You can do it!

-- Nola Ochs
-- Estelle Rees-Arroyo

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