Why Women Worry so Much

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Added: Mon. Jan 12, 2009 1:04am
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The psychological dynamics behind women & worry

By Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified Counselor & Certified Life Coach 

 

 

Women worry about many different topics, from men to body image to relationships to their mother's approval; yet the same psychological drive is fueling this stressful emotion no matter what triggers it.  I believe the real source behind the worry most women feel is control.

 

Not control in the sense of being a manipulative monster, (like Jane Fonda's character in the film "Monster-in-Law"), rather it's the need to know what's happening around her so she can feel empowered and in control of her emotions and environment. 

 

Think of it this way. 

 

When control goes up, worry goes down because the more a woman can understand the more she will automatically feel a sense of security and confidence inside. However, as a situation begins to feel out of control, worry dramatically increases, leading to more serious conditions like

 

Social Phobia

Generalized Anxiety Disorders or

Panic Attacks

 

Women process information verbally which is why they need to talk through so many issues to feel comfortable.  When a woman feels connected through communication she feels confident and alive, instead of afraid.

 

Guys would do well to figure out that they could make rapid improvement in their relationships simply by listening, instead of lecturing the women in their life. When a woman feels safe in the relationship, her worries fade and psychological energy can be spent on living life, instead of living in fear of what might happen next. 

 

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About the author- Dwight Bain is dedicated to helping people achieve greater results. He is a Nationally Certified Counselor, Certified Life Coach and Certified Family Law Mediator in practice since 1984 with a primary focus on solving crisis events and managing major change. He is a member of the National Speakers Association and partners with media, major corporations and non-profit organizations to make a positive difference in our culture. Access more counseling and coaching resources designed to save you time by solving stressful situations by visiting his counseling blog with over 150 complimentary articles and special reports at www.LifeWorksGroup.org