Passing Thoughts Before Work
Added: Wed. May 23, 2012 7:59am
Posted in: Sex
I just stumble across a blog/post as I do when I randomly surf the net, seeking someway to connect with humanity. Written in 2011, the post was written by man who offered up the theory woman after the age of 55 become celibate because both our libido and our emotional capacity diminish with age.
No where in his postulations, did he ever take into consideration any gender responsibility. It couldn't be because men, in general, via their actions/reactions play any role at all in this post menopausal lack of interest.
I am a widow of two months standing having lost my husband after a prolonged illness. Do I miss him - oh, yes. But to be honest, I absolutely am enjoying not taking care of anyone. As lonely as it is, for the first time in almost two decades, I have my own life back.
And as for my libido - I went through 14 years without sex with my husband, not only because he became too physically incapacited, but long before, when he couldn't get an erection but everything else still worked, ALL forms of intimacy stopped...his choice.
I can remember crying, begging him on my knees, even screaming like a lunatic...his only response, We'll have to work on that.
My libido is fine, thank you very much. It is raging to be absolutely honest. Yet my husband's choice for both of us made me very clear about one thing.
I will never ask or beg for sex from a man again. I will never be in a relationship where the actions of my partner dictate when, where, and how. Having been left alone to be responsible for my own physical satisfaction, made me learn what makes this engine hum. Would it roar a little louder with a passenger on board, maybe But the important point is, I can't relinquish the driver seat to anyone else any more. It became my choice.
So, um, guys, stop complaining we are are all sexless, frigid bitches at 55 plus. Many of us are strong, and vigorous lovers. It has been your previous times with us which has made us wary about sharing without respect, consideration, and genuine appreciation.
And, oh yes, that 25 year old really wants you for your body, too