Long Distance Marriage

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Added: Thu. Jul 02, 2009 10:28am
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My husband and I met on Eharmony.  We fell in love, and we had a wedding on May 13, 2009.  Everything about our marriage is everything I dreamed it would be - except that we don't live together.  He lives 190 miles away.

We want to live together - we're starved for each others company.  We email and phone daily, and we send each other "I miss you" cards every now and then.  I live for the mornings I wake up knowing he'll be here or I'll go there. 

We have an established routine.  He drives up Tuesday afternoon and gets to my place arout 7pm.  He makes dinner and greets me when I get home from work at 9:15pm.  We spend the evening together - and spend the entire day Wednesday together (neither one of us works on Wednesday).  Wedensday evening we have dinner and get to bed early because he has to leave early in the morning Thursday to drive back south and be at work.  Occasionally it's reversed and I do the traveling.

Today - I'm over the moon because it's a holiday weekend and after work I drive to him and will spend Thursday night (well, earrrrly Friday morning - I get there about 12:30am) through Sunday night (leave early Monday morning to be at work at 11:30am).  That's 4 nights and 3 days.  He'll be working most of the time, but I get to share his space - and I'm happy. 

We jump through these hoops becasue we're practical.  He owns a restaurant and, until he sells it, must spend long hours on site with it.  I have a decent job with benefits (emphasis on the BENEFITS).  In this econimy - the job market is not friendly, and a job with good benefits is even harder to come by.  We get our benefits through my work.  Also, we both own our own homes - and have adult children living at home.

Patience is something this situation is teaching me.  We don't know how long we'll have to continue this commute, but we're willing to do it as long as it takes.  I'm hoping if we think positive that the universe will present an opportunity for us to live together full-time.