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Starting Over....a New Life...

We were together for 18 years.  Not always rosy....I certainly had my own baggage.....it felt more like roommates than lovers....we were good friends though.  I just thought it was as good as it would get.....

I put on weight, lost it, gained it again.  My own unhappiness and my own baggage....

And off he strayed.....he was a secretive type to begin with....his first choice would always be a lie, even if the answer didn't really matter....never understood that...

Tried to hold things together but in the end he had found someone else and no longer wanted me....crushed, I was crushed...somehow found the will to start again....this was not the first time...

Spent the next three years, on my own, no dating, not even thinking about dating, figuring out who I was.  Acknowledged what had been my part in the crumbling of the relationship and decided I needed to do something different if I wanted something different.

I went online, to a couple of dating sites.  I was terrified...silly...but true.  I found friendships - a great site called Lavalife Prime...for 45+.  Oh, there were wolves there too....but I did make a lot of cyber friends.  I looked forward to coming home after work and going online.  That lasted a couple of months until I began chatting with Steve. 

We were online together for hours...he was in Ontario and I in Alberta.  He flew here to meet me in August last year and we clicked instantly.  I flew there a couple of weeks later.  He put his house up for sale and it sold at the end of September.  He flew me there at the end of October and we made the drive across Canada, to Calgary, to my home, which became his too.

So, 8 months later, we remain together, head over heels in love, comfortable, settled, best friends.  I am the new me.  No more of the old behaviour.  We are both healthy (he is 10 years older), in fact, he is healthier than he has been in years.  I can't wait to see him each day.  He can't wait to tell me the latest thing he has seen or heard.  Truly connected.

My daughter refers to him as my "happily ever after".

I am grateful to my previous partner...and to all the powers that be....I had not imagined a new life like this. 

Sometimes the lowest moments in life are actually just the first rung on a better ladder.