Grief & Loss Touch Us All
Grief is a natural part of the process people go through
when someone has passed away. It can begin as soon as you know you’ll have to
say a final farewell to someone you care about. Along with the grief can come a
desire to comfort your loved one. Holding hands, preparing favorite meals, sitting
near the bedside can help you help ease the suffering of the other’s suffering.
After her husband’s death, Nancy Merz Nordstrom took charge of her life and is making the most of her after 50 years.
Grief's Ebb and Flow
Grief is a strong emotion. For some people it's overwhelming. According to
the Mayo Clinic, it occurs “regardless of whether their sadness stems from the
loss of a loved one or from a terminal diagnosis they or someone they love have
received. It is an individual and collective experience that caregivers know
all too well.
Latest census figures show that about 40 percent of women and...
Caregiving Tips for Students
Last month I had a lovely interview with Mia Vargas, a KSUN streaming radio talk show host about caregiving. Throughout the interview we spoke to Sonoma State University student listeners about November as National Caregiving Month. We agreed that many students are learning to be thankful and appreciative of those around them who take care of loved ones. Mia asked many questions about how...
She spent 35 years counseling people through grief, but now, first-time novelist Joy Johnson is helping them laugh with her new book series, The BOOB Girls. Find out why she wanted to celebrate the beauty and passion of older women.
Our Culture of Grief Avoidance
By Matt W Sandford, LMHC
What do you think about when you hear the word grief? Maybe
sadness, or loss or death. Maybe you think of particular times in your life
when you experienced those things. Then again, maybe you don’t think much about
it at all. I’ve seen lots of folks who have only the vaguest conception of
grief and they would likely describe it in negative terms; meaning it’s...
A terrible way to die
(Readers’ note: The following is not a sunshine and flowers musing.) There are so many ways of dying. There is a multitude of illnesses that can cause it. There are various ways of dying in accidents – cars, trains or planes as they say. One may be the victim of a violent crime which results in murder. It may be just a matter of old age and our bodies wearing out. In all those...
Functional and Dysfunctional Grief
Not everyone grieves in the same way. After all, we are different people with different physical appearances, different perspectives, different experiences, different thoughts, different emotions, different backgrounds, and different attitudes. So why when it comes to grief do we believe that there is one correct way to handle the loss of a loved one? There are in fact a number of constructive...
Broken Dreams and God's Surprise
By Matt W Sandford
Everyone I think has goals and dreams. A great job where you
are respected and with travel opportunities, finding “the one” to spend your
life with, becoming a Mom or Dad, starting your own business. But many of those
dreams are not realized. And sometimes the dream is found and then lost. I
know. My wife and I had reached our dream, but then in flash, it was gone....
How I know my sisters are still around
Both my sisters died in 2001. A couple of weeks after my sister Patty died, I was standing on the back deck talking to my mother on the phone. I don't remember what we were talking about, but I do remember what happened during the call. My sister sent her first postcard from the other side. As I was talking, a dove flew up from beneath the feeder and perched on the deck railing. It landed...