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There are a few events in life that rank up there as biggies. Being born certainly is one although we are in no condition to celebrate that at the time. Right next to it would be the birth of a child. In some respects it is having the power of a god, of being able to create life. To a lesser degree there are those happy events as we progress in our careers, though the downside is the...

“If only I knew then what I know now.” It’s hard not to learn a few things in living a seven decades plus life. In my case, and in many others, it is a matter of trial and error – with lots of errors. So it is in looking back and thinking about the present that I have learned a few rules on how to nurture and sustain a marriage (or relationship). What I learned to make the...

How do I know if this person is “the one”? Can I live with them for the rest of my life? Are their behaviors a deal breaker or a bump in the road? If you are in the process of asking yourself these questions, then taking time to evaluate the situation may be in order. Premarital counseling with a pastor or licensed professional can be useful, but in the meantime look through the following...

Home should be the safest place where our deepest needs are met. Then why do many couples who feel desperately in love before they say, “I do” so desperate to split up a year later? That is what led me to develop 43 key factors to use in tracking marital connection or to measure the level of marital conflict. I began this list in the early 1980's and update it every year because I noticed...

As The Relationship Ends If you are a steady reader of my musings then you know the things I write about cover many different subjects. They are, as I say, my observations of and reflections on life. I like to think that you find what I write enjoyable and though provoking and sometime amusing (no pun intended). Every once in a while something crosses my mind that really makes me stop and...

Have you ever wondered why so many couples are crazy in love and can't wait to get together, and then drive each other crazy and can't wait to split up? I sure have and developed some key factors to use in tracking marital connection or marital conflict. Below are the most common factors that can lead to marital crisis. As you read through this list, think about your relationship or perhaps the...

Having you spouse out of work for any extended period of time can be stressful especially in an economy where the unemployment rate is the highest it has been in over 20 years. Many unemployed workers are looking for any job whether it is in their profession or not just to cover the bills. In addition, there is also an increase in the number of employees dissatisfied in their work place but...