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As The Relationship Ends If you are a steady reader of my musings then you know the things I write about cover many different subjects. They are, as I say, my observations of and reflections on life. I like to think that you find what I write enjoyable and though provoking and sometime amusing (no pun intended). Every once in a while something crosses my mind that really makes me stop and...

How do I know if this person is “the one”? Can I live with them for the rest of my life? Are their behaviors a deal breaker or a bump in the road? If you are in the process of asking yourself these questions, then taking time to evaluate the situation may be in order. Premarital counseling with a pastor or licensed professional can be useful, but in the meantime look through the following...

20 ways to create greater Marital Connection By Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified Counselor & Certified Life Coach There are so many failed marriage stories in the headlines it can make you wonder, “Is an intimate relationship even possible anymore?” and if so, “How do you get one?” It seems that some couples quickly move from being fired up with romantic passion to wanting to just...

In 1941 Bud Schulberg published the book, What makes Sammy Run? It is a story about the rise and fall of the main character Sammy Glick. It also was turned into a television show though never a movie. The Hollywood powers-to-be never made a movie of it since it wasn't very flattering of them. What is interesting about this story is learning what actually made Sammy run, where it led to and...

Have you ever wondered why so many couples are crazy in love and can't wait to get together, and then drive each other crazy and can't wait to split up? I sure have and developed some key factors to use in tracking marital connection or marital conflict. Below are the most common factors that can lead to marital crisis. As you read through this list, think about your relationship or perhaps the...

Why Strong Men Fall into Lustful Addiction By Dwight Bain, Nationally Certified CounselorSarah woke up from a deep sleep at 3 AM and realized that her husband wasn’t in bed, so she got up to see if he was okay. She was not prepared for what she saw next. Her husband of 27 years, who she respected as a man of integrity, was sitting in front of their home computer in some sort of “trance”...

There is one thing about today's youth that I find amusing and sometimes frustrating. They look at us who are over 65, 70 or 75 and think we have no idea what it is like to be young (even 55 might qualify as being old in this respect). They simply can't fathom us as ever being their age. We are the old folk in their minds. I guess they think we were 65 or more the day we were born. They...